Sep 27, 2013

I've Learned it's Okay to be Sad...

...but I haven't necessarily learned which words I'm supposed to capitalize in a headline. 

Anyway, this seems to keep coming up in my life the past two weeks or so during conversations with friends—not that I'm sad, I'm good—so I figured I'd ramble about it for awhile, to you, dear sweet five followers of mine. 

I was watching Lewis CK talk on Conan, and while hilarious, he hits on something I've tried to explain to a couple of friends recently. It's okay to be sad. It's even good to be sad sometimes. I think that a lot of us spend so much of our time choking down tears, hiding our feelings, or avoiding them all together, that we don't really get to just work through it. It's so much harder to get past a break-up, bad news from the past, or whatever it is that's bringing you down without looking it dead in the eye. If you don't, it'll lurk in the shadows. 

On the other hand, I don't think it's ok to be sad forever. That's where you have to find balance and give yourself a "deadline" to say, ok, it's time to move on now, or at least pick yourself up. (Easier said than done, I know.) Of all the things anyone said to me back in January, the best advice was, "Be sad. Be sad for as long as it takes. Don't rush it. Feel it." And while "as long as it takes" is subjective, that's all part of the process of just living. What's the point of life if you go through it numb? You have to feel the bad to relish in the good. 

- end ramble.

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