Jan 7, 2025

Am I too old for anyone to even care

Sit down and write something once a week

How hard is that? But then the brain overwhelms itself, or me rather

Mom? Dad? Lost friends? Lost time?

Strength training to mitigate perimenopause only to over do it like everything else and end up sad and in pain

It’s the bills, the kids, the appointments, the classes, the meetings, the dogs, the dog park

It’s the weather and the hormones and the color of the sky and nothing feels right - or familiar - or mine - or me

Where am I? How did we get HERE - and why aren’t you here dad? Mom? How could you leave me here ALONE here

Like a lost kid in a clothing store unable to see over the clothing racks, searching for safety for home for anything familiar and grounding

Death feels familiar and I hate that

And when will the dog next door stop barking

When will the kids stop fighting

When will I be able to just…breathe

And be alive without feeling the marching feet of time

Time that goes to quickly, I always worried it would, and it has and it will
And one day, will be the last day

And what then

Who will water the plants, feed the dogs, take out the trash or do the laundry 

Does any of it matter? Did any of it ever matter?

I miss you. I miss the dysfunction. I miss there being the chance to change, to make it better - because we didn’t, did we?

And now nothing is better and nothing is fine, but I hold that, it’s not your pain anymore, it’s mine

If you could read my mind, why didn’t you

Why was it saved for the last spark - the spark that time put out before I could even enjoy the light

And it’s ranting and raving, and internal fucking chaos and maybe that’s what you wanted

Maybe not

But it’s what you left me with to carry on

To do the dishes and pack the lunches and have the playdates and bed time and shouting and tears and anger

Anger that I don’t want to pass on but it feels impossible because I already see it in her eyes, the disappointment that’s been brewing since the world shut down

Or maybe before

Maybe I never could be more

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